I recently talk to a recent college graduate who was working at his first “real job” and he wasn’t enjoying it. I asked how can I assist you in achieving your goals, “what would you like to do?” He responded with, “I really don’t know, I just want to make a lot of money.”  I said what about being a teacher, He said, “Naw, I can’t stand kids”. I said that’s a start, at least you know some of the things that you don’t want to do. He also said he is thinking about getting his MBA. I responded with, “Is there a particular job you are looking for that requires it?” He thought for a second and mentioned, “No, but I think it’s something good to have.”

Understand, there’s a fundamental flaw in wanting success and happiness and living life without specifically defined goals. You end up in between where you want to be and where you don’t want to be. Lots of people fail to plan their life. I understand you may not know what you want to do or the ideas you come up with doesn’t seem like the perfect plan.  But you have to try! The process of really figuring out your life goals can be hard and frustrating. You have to find out what you are passionate about! That’s the first step! I don’t care if it takes years, you have to spend time answering this question. Then and only then will you feel free. If your bills were paid, What do you not mind doing all day and night and not get paid for it? And when you answer this question, you have to understand, that most of your hobbies (playing basketball, eating out, shopping, spending time with your kids) are fun and exciting because you rarely get to do them. If you played golf everyday, shopped all day, or was joined at the hip with your children, you probably get sick of it really fast. So be careful how you answer the question.

After you read this blog, look yourself in the mirror and say, “If today was my last day on earth, would I be doing what I’m doing now.” If the answer is no, make some adjustments.