The infamous question that everybody is asked as a child and it continues to haunt you your entire life. What do you want? or What do you want to be? I decided to look up the word ‘want’ to see what the definition was.
want [wont, wawnt] –verb (used with object)
1. to feel a need or a desire for; wish for: to want one’s dinner; always wanting something new.
2. to wish, need, crave, demand, or desire (often fol. by an infinitive): I want to see you. She wants to be notified.
3. to be without or be deficient in: to want judgment; to want knowledge.
4. to fall short by (a specified amount): The sum collected wants but a few dollars of the desired amount.
5. to be lacking or absent, as a part or thing necessary to completeness: All that wants is his signature.
I then realized that “to want” something is automatically telling you that you have fallen short of your goal. It’s already accepting defeat. When you say “I want to be rich.” It says, I am here and what I want is not in my possession. Also, to want something is just a thought, so you never have to do any physical action.
Now lets change the word ‘want’ to ‘become’. Instead of saying “what do you want to be?” or “I want to be rich.” Lets say, “what do you become?”or “I am becoming rich.”
be⋅come [bi-kuhm] be⋅came, be⋅come, be⋅com⋅ing. –verb (used without object)
1. to come, change, or grow to be (as specified): He became tired.
2. to come into being.
–verb (used with object)
3. to be attractive on; befit in appearance; look well on: That gown becomes you.
4. to be suitable or necessary to the dignity, situation, or responsibility of: conduct that becomes an officer.
To become is totally different. When you are becoming, you are already in the process towards your goal. You are in a changing state. This no longer leaves you standing still. It says you have thought about your goal and now you are physically doing whatever actions necessary.
There is a huge difference here. So next time you or someone else ask you “what you want?” Instead of responding with “I want…” respond with “I am becoming…”