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How to never WANT again!

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The infamous question that everybody is asked as a child and it continues to haunt you your entire life. What do you want? or What do you want to be? I decided to look up the word ‘want’ to see what the definition was.

want [wont, wawnt] –verb (used with object)
1. to feel a need or a desire for; wish for: to want one’s dinner; always wanting something new.
2. to wish, need, crave, demand, or desire (often fol. by an infinitive): I want to see you. She wants to be notified.
3. to be without or be deficient in: to want judgment; to want knowledge.
4. to fall short by (a specified amount): The sum collected wants but a few dollars of the desired amount.
5. to be lacking or absent, as a part or thing necessary to completeness: All that wants is his signature.

I then realized that “to want” something is automatically telling you that you have fallen short of your goal. It’s already accepting defeat. When you say “I want to be rich.” It says, I am here and what I want is not in my possession. Also, to want something is just a thought, so you never have to do any physical action.

Now lets change the word ‘want’ to ‘become’. Instead of saying “what do you want to be?” or “I want to be rich.” Lets say, “what do you become?”or “I am becoming rich.”

be⋅come [bi-kuhm] be⋅came, be⋅come, be⋅com⋅ing. –verb (used without object)
1. to come, change, or grow to be (as specified): He became tired.
2. to come into being.
–verb (used with object)
3. to be attractive on; befit in appearance; look well on: That gown becomes you.
4. to be suitable or necessary to the dignity, situation, or responsibility of: conduct that becomes an officer.

To become is totally different. When you are becoming, you are already in the process towards your goal. You are in a changing state. This no longer leaves you standing still. It says you have thought about your goal and now you are physically doing whatever actions necessary.

There is a huge difference here. So next time you or someone else ask you “what you want?” Instead of responding with “I want…” respond with “I am becoming…”


Discussion

4 comments for “How to never WANT again!”

  1. I was always taught that words are powerful and that you can “speak’ things into reality … This post reconfirms that lesson and has me thinking about how I communicate my goals (as opposed to my dreams).

    Posted by QueTrader | December 2, 2009, 4:31 am
  2. Great post! I suggest that you take the “become” out though as that slows down the process of manifesting your desires. Become is almost as bad as want, only that you will eventually evolve into or come into your desires (over time).

    By just stating that you are already whatever you desire to be will allow it to come into being much faster. People like to see results – quickly. Example: I am rich. Or, I am successful.

    Or state, I intend to make $5000 by the end of the week.

    Intend:
    1. to have in mind as something to be done or brought about; plan.

    Or state, My intention is to become a millionaire by Jan. 2010.

    Intention:
    1. an act or instance of determining mentally upon some action or result.

    Posted by Anonymous | December 3, 2009, 7:28 pm
  3. QueTrader – thanks for the comment. gyeah!

    Posted by TheMoneyMaven | December 3, 2009, 7:34 pm
  4. Also, an anonymous commenter stated to change the word become to ‘I am’ or intend. I love the words “I am” and always use it. But the mind is very smart. If you say “I am rich” your mind really knows that you don’t believe that and rejects it. So it’s hard to convince yourself of something that isn’t true.

    “I am” is derived from the verb “To Be” and also derived from the verb “To Become”. So to become is saying the same thing as I am. When you start to become, you start to be aware. This is huge. There is action with this.

    To intend on doing something is the same as wanting to do something. The definition of intention is ‘determining mentally’, it’s still just a thought and I do think it’s a better word than want. But the words “I am” and “I become” are a lot more powerful.

    It’s just you can’t trick your brain with “I am” all the time. Hope that makes sense.

    Posted by TheMoneyMaven | December 3, 2009, 7:48 pm

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